Do you love your Parent?
Paper cup wrote :
Dr. Love,
Do you love your parent? We could not choose who our parent is, so we have to learn how to get along with them. If getting along is just too hard, it is a sin that we block them out from our lives?
Dr. Love wrote :
Hello paper cup thanks for your note. Now, for your question, I have to say YES. Probably I should relate one experience I learnt from a good friend of mine.
It goes like this ..
Miss P is a very good friend to Dr. Love. However, for many years, Papa P dislikes Miss P. Papa P always put more love and focus to other siblings, thus Miss P always felt being ignored from Parental Love. All this time, Miss P grew up stronger and pretty much on her own. However she did not become a bad person. Although, with lack of parental love, she still continues to love her dad, eventhough they cannot see eye to eye.
Many years later, Papa P grew older and of course, his health deteriotated. At that time, most of Miss P siblings left the country and Papa P lived alone by himself. As days goes by, Papa P could not even walk. Miss P, being a dutiful daughter took time out from her hectic schedule to visit Papa P and making sure Papa P is ok, like cooking and showering him daily.
One fine day, while Miss P was showering his dad, Papa P suddenly sat on the floor and showing sign of giving up hope to live. At that moment, Papa P looked into Miss P eyes seeking for forgivness. Without a single word being mentioned, both father and daughter hugged and cried. Papa P passed away few weeks later after the incident.
I learnt from Miss P that she forgave what her dad has done to her. They may not talked much during their lives but it does not mean she did not Love him.
Paper cup, you see, we all (human!) are very proud species. When we can walk, talk and eat, we feel Superior. Same goes to our parents. Every parents has a different way of communicating with their children, however, as a Son or Daughter, we shouldn't ignore the fact that they are our Parents. If you cannot respect them, but at least don't ignore them.
For Miss P, she earned her dad's respect eventhough towards the end of his life. That's one thing she will not FORGET and REGRET.
KBJP
posted by Kiasu-Ching @ 1:25 PM
4 comments
4 Comments:
Paper cup, do not doubt your parent love, always remember love comes in many other forms, they will always love you in their way.
I think it is a sin to block out your parent from your life. A colleague of mine just told me how she regret for not being able to spend more time with her mother before she passed away. You do not want that to happen to you too.
May God bless you.
No one is perfect, this is the same for our parents as well. We may also have generation gap - where we just dun get what they think, how/why they reacted certain ways - which are unacceptable to us. There could be many 1 way or mis-leading 1 or 2 ways communication between parents and kids relationship. God wants us to Love everyone. Love Him, Love our parent, Love our enermy. I don't think it is right to block them away when you feel they don't love u enough (there could be complicated cases behind). But I still think we cannot block them away. We are not talking about returning favor or the chinese saying - 'u do day1, I do day15'. They are indeed your parent, life is short, take time to solve the hurdles between you & them, surrounded your life with 'Love' not 'Hate' ....good luck !
Love and time heals. I just hope I am given all the time I need and use all the love I have with my parent.
Thanks for your response.
Personally, I feel there should be common understanding from both parties. Parents should understand their kid as how the kid must understand their parents too. Only then, there will be proper 2way communication. However, being parents, as most of the time, the "dictatorship" will somehow come in, therefore, as a child to our parents, I would put myself in their shoes, ask yourself "what would you have done given the same situation?" and the parents do the same too, "put theirself in their child's shoes, why does my kid wanna do this?", then, only there will be mutual understanding, which will lead to a very fruitful talk.
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