No Flowers No 'I Love U'

maggi mee goreng wrote :

Doktor Cinta, a friend referred me to your blog. I have a cinta issue. I met my current boyfriend two months ago. We met during a trip/vacation. After the trip we went out on a few dates. During one of them, in a movie, he grabbed my hand and I allowed it. I guess we are on from there onwards and we have been going steady for the past 2 months.

The thing is, doktor cinta, he never once told me he loves (or likes) me. He did not take me back to see his parents nor his friends. He hardly calls but sms me a lot. I know he's a shy person, but after 2 months and no i-love-yous, I get worried. I didn't receive any flowers from him too. Is he for real?

I just wanted to add that he's not stingy type. I have also asked him how come he never bought me any flowers and he said it is so old fashioned. Obviously he has not read your "How to show Affections to a girl?" post! GRRR!

Doctor Love replied :

Hey maggi mee goreng! That's my favorite food actually :P Thanks for writing in, and I hope you have time to catch up with other topics we had shared in this blog.

OK girl! Your issue here sounds like you don't feel secure and special as a girlfriend to this boy. It seems your boyfriend may have a different way of expressing his love to you.

Well let me ask you this. If he did not say 'I Love U' or give you any flowers, does he do other things to make you happy? For example, I had seen couple who always go out to interesting places for food (cheap or fine dining). They will travel around together to find good food. Or go to movies which both of them loved to do very much. What important here is if you guys share some common things, and do you enjoy doing it together?

I know how you feel girl, and you have the rights to do so. Girls are like a pot of flowers, they need to be watered from time to time. However, 2 months in a relationship is not very long. Why don't you take a deep breath, relax and enjoy his companionship. Once you know each other well enough, speak to him. Hint: You need to handle this carefully. Don't make it sound like a COMPLAIN. Stay calm, and tell him how you FEEL. You may be surprised he may have done something he thinks which is special but you may not be aware of? If you are not comfortable to speak to him, then get him to read the blog on ‘Affections’, hear what he has to say? :-)

I had met friends who do not know how to express himself at all. However, it does not mean he doesn't love the girl. It's just him and he loved his partner in a different way.

Any readers out there had the same experiences?

hnvn