Single Woman Growing Older!
Anonymous wrote :
Hi Doktor,
I was having a conversation with one of my girl friends and she said she's worried that she will become a spinster. She's not so much worried about being alone but having those weird spinster-like behaviours - you know, how people used to say that single old woman are a bit psychotic or emotionally unstable or nasty.
I am not sure if you are also a medical doctor by profession. My question is how can a single woman prevent herself from becoming psychotic as she grows older?
Doctor Love replied :
Hi Anonymous, you are so kind to write in for your friend eh. Make sure your friend visit this site too ya!
I guess any human beings are capable of love and need to be loved in returns. So it should not be restricted to girls but to men too. When we are younger, we received a lot of attentions and feel a lot of love around us. At a later stage of our life, all your friends or family members have their own families and will spend less time with you. That's when you start to feel lonely and feeling less love or even unwanted.
Personally, my advice for those who are growing older and still single should seek and receive support from friends and family whenever possible. For example, one of my older friend became a godmother to a baby girl. She felt so exciting and new life has branched out from this arrangement. Or you can have good friends to invite you into part of their life, like getting you to help in any social parties, or dinner over their place.
One of my favorite activities is to get involved in charity work. Sometimes through these activities you will notice how lucky you are even though you are single!
So really, it's about getting support from people around us and fills our life with things which are positive to our mind. Leading a life on your own can be very tough. Lingering mind could drive us nuts!
From today onward, let's not waste our time by thinking we are lonely and single. Let's lead our life to the fullest and hope each day we have something to look forward for tomorrow.
posted by Kiasu-Ching @ 2:34 PM
14 comments
14 Comments:
Wah.. you do charity also ah? You are so kind hearted, Doktor Cinta...
Doktor Cinta, thanks for your response. But the problem, I feel, is that the older you get, the more reserved you will be. One will be more tired of doing all these charity and one like to feel sorry for oneself. Besides, sometimes people don't want to go out with friends because they see their friends so happy with a family they feel inferior. How then?
MGA, if I can get you Doktor Cinta's autograph, how much is it worth to you? :P
You gotta be kidding me, ringgit... Go away...
Doktor Cinta, can i do charity with you? hehehe...so ill have a kaki to do charity work !
Dear Doktor Cinta, I had just read the anger post by Cavewoman the other day and today the same thing happen to me.
Early in the morning, my mum try to tell me, neighbour has a boss's son looking for girlfriend and see if i'm interested.
I didn't get into angry mode like cavewoman but just remain silent. This is because, deep down at my heart i wish to meet this guy but i don't know how to say "yes". It's so embarassing to say "yes" to this kinda match make thingy :(
Actually, i've been asking myself a question over and over again... am i ready for another relationship? but i can't answer it myself :(. Doktor Cinta, please help!
Sanguinity, will you consider Mr Thick Skin??? LOL.. You can read about him and find his contact number HERE
dear ringgit...
aiyo...i think i wanna avoid Mr Thick Skin..... this kinda guy very much !!
Dear Sanguinity
Good to hear that you were calmed when your mom try to match make for you. That should be the way, handle with class eh!
Well, I think there is no harm to meet any friends either recommended by your mom or friends. Tell your mom, you can be friends to anyone, but don't make it sounds desperate. Sometimes I will use the line like 'Sure let's meet as friends, and I have other friends to introduce to him in the future'. Hehe!
For you girl, don't focus too much that this is the one or this is not the one! Take one step at a time. If he is not the one, shake his hands, and tell him how busy you are everyday (even you are not!). If he is the one, give him all the numbers you can be contacted! ;-)
Let us know ya, if you have decided to meet him. We hope you all the best :-)
Eh.. TS.. are you reading this. Seems like your behaviour is not very popular among the female readers here. Do you think you can still score? Dr C, advice lar Mr TS... He's your friend right?
Dr Love, i dunno how to say "YES" to meet that guy... it's sosososo embrassing ler....
If i say yes, i foresee 2 family going out "yum cha", then introduce me to the guy, introduce the guy to me...
Then, the parent will keep asking me question and vice versa... i really cannot do it!!!!
Sanguity, don't go out in families! My gosh! That would be really embarassing. What about just telling your parents that you don't mind meeting him. Ask him to call you and you two will go out for a drink. No families stuff...
Then, it is up to him if he'll call. Probably the guy feel embarrassed as well and may not call.. LOL..
Unless, he's MR TS.
ayoo...sanguinity...ringgit is rite. Ask the guy to call you. Then your 'harga' will be higher and if not you sound desperate for it.
Take it easy. Be cool. Families..no no...
Sanguity, any updates? Did you meet the guy? Pray tell!!!
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